Some breakups are harder than others. Sometimes the loss is so devastating that we don’t know how to move past it.
You are not weird or weak for being devastated. It hurts so much because of how much you loved that person. It doesn’t matter how long or short the relationship was, what matters is how much it meant to you.
If you find yourself stuck or feeling lost, please consider getting professional help, to go to therapy specifically to deal with the breakup.
To heal, there will need to be a time of mourning and grieving. This hurts a lot and people often try to skip this, whether by bottling it up or with a rebound relationship. The pain can be buried or delayed, but this will not make it go away. In your own time, hope you can open it back up and process it.
Grief runs a course, commonly known as the Five Stages of Grief: denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. Your process might not be in that specific order, but by the end you will have closure. After that, you will be able to move on and start your life again, a life without that person.
For people who have never tried therapy, there is a concern that therapy is a long and drawn out process, or that the therapy doesn’t help. As a therapist, that is the last thing I want a client to feel. Shop around for a therapist that seems promising, talk to a few therapists over the phone, it is common for therapists to give free phone consultations.
I offer 30 minute free phone consultations, feel free to call or text me at (626)464-1651 or email me at elvinalui@gmail.com