Some breakups are harder than others. Sometimes the loss is so devastating that we don’t know how to move past it.
You are not weird or weak for feeling stuck. It’s hard for you to move on because of how much you loved that person.
If you are stuck and unable to move on, please consider getting professional help; you can seek therapy specifically to overcome the breakup.
To heal, there will need to be a time of mourning and grieving. This hurts a lot and people often try to skip this, whether by bottling it up or with a rebound relationship. The pain can be buried or delayed, but this will not make it go away. The only way to truly move on is to fully grieve the loss and reach closure.
Grief runs a predictable course, commonly known as the Five Stages of Grief: denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. Your process might not be in that specific order, but by the end, you will have closure and you will truly be able to move on with a new life.
For people who have never tried therapy, there is a concern that therapy is a long and drawn-out process, or that therapy doesn’t help. As a therapist, that is the last thing I want a client to feel. I recommend you shop around for a therapist that seems promising, it is common for therapists to offer free phone consultations.
I offer 30 minute free phone consultations, feel free to call or text me at (626)464-1651 or email me at elvinalui@gmail.com